‘The course of true love never did run smooth', but once you are swimming those waters, there's no river wild enough to keep you from getting to your significant other. But how two people fall in love is a mystery on its own.
Despite being an old feeling explored by poets and play writers like Shakespeare or studied by psychologists like Freud, that ‘loving feeling' remains a puzzle for most of us. Therefore, hopefully this article will shed some light on how to make someone you like fall head over heels for you.
1. Love yourself. "Don't forget to fall in love with yourself first", Carrie Bradshaw once said, and that comes from an expert in dating. How can you expect someone to love you if you don't love yourself first? You are awesome and you deserve love. Believe it! Otherwise, the odds might not play in your favor. In fact, we usually fall in love with people that we find attractive and suitable for us, but also someone who shows that they are attracted to us. When we perceive that others are attracted to us, we feel a surge of exhilaration. However, if you don't like ourselves and can't believe that someone else finds us attractive, we don't give ourselves the chance to really like someone and miss out on chances to fall in love.
2. Don't overdo it. When you fall in love, you might want to show him how much he means to you in many ways. While he might like you cooking for him, asking about his life and doing things for him, too much pampering might backfire. Some guys think it's a turn off when girls start acting like their mothers. Besides, just remember, in every relationship with family, friends and significant others, when you give them too much of your attention, they lose interest in you. Sad, but true. Let them miss you!
3. Adrenaline-filled dates. While you might enjoy a fancy dinner by the candlelight in a romantic place, a quite getaway up country, or a cheesy film in a date, guys love action-packed activities. So, why not suggest an exciting activity such as paragliding, surfing, rock climbing or even hiking in a beautiful natural wonder?
4. ‘Absence makes the heart grow founder'. While the best way to make someone fall in love with you is through spending time together, sometimes a bit of absence to get them to miss you and remember how much they love spending time with you. Thus, from time to time, give them some space and spend some time with your friends and family.
5. Take it slow. It's not a failsafe rule, just like not sleeping with a guy before the third date is far from a universal truth. However, when it comes to the physical side of your relationship, if you let it develop over time, you allow the two of you to build trust - vital for a romantic relationship.
6. Don't share everything all at the same time. Women are infamous for talking to much about themselves in one sitting. Don't say everything about yourself all at once. Try to remain mysterious, so he can find you interesting a hundred years from now, like Lorelai Gilmore said.
